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Refuse to express an emotion and it dies

We all have them: emotions! However, only a few people on Earth have learned to master them. How come? This has to do with our current point in evolution. We are mostly emotionally polarized which means that we mostly look at life through the lens of our emotions.

Like everything in life, emotions deepen by repetition. In other words, as we give into an emotion once, it will become easier to give into it a second time and a third time until it eventually becomes second nature to habitually give into a given emotion.

If you give into anger, worry, or discouragement once, it will soon become natural to become angry, worried or discouraged … and what’s more, with each repetition it takes less to provoke the emotion. Each indulgence makes the habit more at home in the fabric of our bodies and before we know it we’ll start acting out our new habit.

With this understanding in mind, how may we prevent undesirable emotions taking hold of us in the first place?

Well, to begin with, the best time to deal with undesirable emotions is to catch them the moment they start because with each repetition, the root of the emotional habit grows deeper, and the deeper the root of the habit, the more difficult it will be later on to dislodge it.

So, whenever you find yourself indulging in a negative emotion, immediately (!) take hold of it and deny it entrance into your consciousness by saying firmly and decisively, „Get out!“ Each time you do this, the habitual emotion grows weaker and your will grows stronger.

Refuse to express an emotion and it dies! However, the key to success is to catch it before it  has a chance to enter your consciousness. And to be resolute in your denial!

Now, here is something else you can do. This is actually an ancient „secret“ that has been around for ages. Here it is: When you are about to be taken over by anger, worry, despair etc., count to ten and the whole incidence will seem laughable and childish. When you establish the habit to count to ten before you actually give into the unpleasant emotion, say an unkind word etc., you have a chance to think and reason how ridiculous it is to be taken over by the same unpleasant emotion over and over again (often for years!) and how desirable it is to just get over yourself and master this unpleasant emotion once and for all and be free of it!

When you give yourself ten seconds to think about the whole situation and to remind yourself that being taken over by the force of an emotion means to be the slave of your emotional body, …, when you give yourself ten seconds to remind yourself that emotions are real, tangible forces that you can direct as you please, you will stop dreading the onslaught of unpleasant emotions and begin to look at it as the perfect opportunity and perfect timing to redirect the emotional force into a higher channel.

Counting to ten is a wonderful way to get a handle on our forces. Emotions are real, tangible forces. That’s why they „force“ us into certain actions and we feel like we are at their mercy, unable to do anything about it. However, this is not true because we can do something about it: We can redirect them into a higher channel.

Each time an unpleasant emotion is about to overtake you, quickly redirect it into the joy of mastery! „Got ya! Yay :-)!“ FEEL the joy of mastery! If we want to transform lower emotions into higher ones, it is essential that we FEEL the higher frequency in our bodies. If we don’t feel the joy of mastery in our heart, we are not really transmuting the quality of the force. You know that you have done it right, you know that you are transmuting lower forces, when you FEEL joy, happiness and excitement in your heart. Please keep that in mind.

Learning to get a handle on our emotions is one of the most difficult lessons on the Spiritual path because we have been run by our emotions since the days of Atlantis. That’s the reason why the emotional body is also known as the Atlantean body. However, we no longer live in Atlantis today 🙂 We live in the 21st century which shall go down in history as the Age of the Soul. And in the Age of the Soul the evolutionary goal is for the Soul to master its service instrument and all of its forces in service of love and evolution. And mastering our emotions involves the insight that no one can master our emotions for us just like no one can breathe for us. If we are going to master our emotions, it’s up to us. That’s why there is no way around confronting our emotions and getting busy mastering them as this is a requirement to master this Earthly school, be of service to humanity and eventually graduate from this school altogether.

As Jesus said, „In my Father’s House are many mansions.“ However, if we want to visit these higher mansions and take residence in these lofty regions, we’ll have to raise our frequency. Gross emotions are magnetically repelled by these higher frequency regions. In other words, the key to get into these higher mansions of frequency is to raise our very frequency. Our lower emotions literally keep us enchained here on Earth because that’s where we belong frequency-wise. However, we are not meant to reincarnate on Earth for all of eternity. We are supposed to graduate from this school as Integrated Enlightened Masters. That’s the exciting destiny of every man and woman on Earth!

And that’s why sooner or later we all will have to transmute our lower forces into higher frequencies. There is no way around it. We have no choice in the matter. The only choice we have is to decide whether we are ready to get busy mastering our emotions today or whether we’d like to wait for another ten years or twenty years, or even postpone the whole lesson to another incarnation altogether. The choice is ours. That’s called free will.

About the Author:

Gloria Excelsias
Gloria Excelsias is the President of the I AM University, an educational platform with focus on Spiritual and psychological development, that was established by the late Dr Joshua David Stone and handed over to her care in 2005, at Dr Stone’s passing. As Dr Stone’s personal assistant, close friend and protégé, she received ongoing personal training in applied transpersonal psychology and integrated ascension which would prepare her consciousness for her later service work as the University’s President. Having moved the I AM University from California to Salzburg, Austria, her native country, she is now passionately dedicated to running and evolving the I AM University as an inspired writer and coach, placing thematic priority on Spiritual psychology, intuitive philosophy and the overall unfoldment of human consciousness.


  1. Milos ;-) October 5, 2017 at 12:11 pm

    This is an interesting view and it makes sense to me. Same goes for exercising any other action, physical or mental. However… how does this go along with the principle of not supressing? Many people have problem with expressing emotions in that they are supressing them or feeling guilty for them. How to go about practicing what you write yet not stopping the natural flow of energy?

    I take it that the emotion should not appear within our consciousness in a first place. If it already appears, then I better express it. And how should the emotion not appear? It depends on my beliefs, understanding and contents of bodies higher above emotional I suppose.

    Any tips in this direction?

  2. Gloria October 6, 2017 at 9:04 am

    Dear Milos,

    Great question 🙂

    I think I answered your question in the article called, “The Faulty Theory that Negative Emotions Exhaust themselves through Expression.“

    You are right. Emotions are real, tangible, electromagnetic forces and the one thing we must not do is suppress them. We need to get them out of the system, however, as I said in the above article: „The way out is NOT the uncontrolled expression of our negative emotions but their controlled transmutation. … Emotions are currents of energy that need to be expressed and must NOT be inhibited, however, they need to be expressed in a healthy way. So, YES, our negative emotions need to get out of the system, they have to come to the surface, there has to be some outlet for our emotions, however, the healthy way to express negative emotions is to first transmute them into a higher frequency and then express that higher frequency.“

    Please visit here to read the article:

    This being said, the subject of emotion is a vast field. In every article on the subject I seek to look at the subject from a different angle. The angle you are asking about I discussed in the above article. „Refuse the express an emotion and it dies“ focuses more on avoiding the accumulation of lower emotional forces in our energy field in the first place by transmuting them before they have a chance to take root in our system.

    Hope that helps 🙂


  3. Milos October 9, 2017 at 8:58 am

    Great, that is much better! Thank you, Gloria 🙂

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